Truthy Thursday | Don’t Stop Talking About It

Good Thursday afternoon to you  ❤

It’s a gloomy day here in DC, but I’m trying to make the best of it :)

I wanted to drop in quickly with a follow-up to my post last month. I was so overwhelmed with the response it received! I honestly didn’t know what to expect, but I was touched by the personal stories that were shared with me and incredibly thankful that I am apart of such a wonderfully supportive community. 

I have always been appreciative of really honest stories and articles regarding mental illness, as well as artists and public figures speaking on their personal struggles. Since my diagnoses earlier this year, that interest has more than doubled, because instead of just having an interest, I understand what it’s like. 

We all know the stigma that mental illness has, so since I do have a very personal connection to it, I want to do my part of keeping the lines of communication open- in hopes that someone else can be helped to feel less weird about their mental illness or seek assistance in dealing with it. 

I don’t always have the energy, the words, or even the desire to speak about what I’m going through WHEN I’m going through it, but I am thankful for women like Bunmi Laditan and Bassey Ikpi (to name 2 specifically) that are able to beautifully articulate this not-so-beautiful struggle. It is incredibly helpful to read their posts because not only am I able to understand where they’re coming from, I appreciate their sharing in the first place, and there’s an added benefit of knowing that you’re not alone in this. Some days that helps and some days it doesn’t lol. 

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But on that note (and the purpose for this post) I wanted to share some of the articles I’ve come across in the past few weeks that I’ve found really helpful. Hopefully you’ll find them helpful as well if you are struggling with depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder. If you’re not dealing with any of these issues yourself, I encourage you to read these articles anyway as it may help you understand a little what your friend or family member may be going through.

‘My Body Spasms. I Think I’m Going to Collapse’

One of my favorite artists, I really appreciated this interview with Laura Mvula regarding her ongoing struggle with anxiety and panic attacks.

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The Anguish of Depression: ‘I Am Trying to Stay Alive’

I appreciate Bassey Ikpi soo much for being such a vocal mental health advocate. Her writing is masterfully moving.

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What Does Depression Feel like?

Though depression is a “common” issue, the symptoms aren’t always the same, nor is it easily described. I thought this was a very good article.

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Living with Bipolar Disorder

This really hit home. Victor Pope Jr is one of my favorite online comedians and I am so appreciative of him sharing his struggle with bipolar disorder. Especially when it comes to addressing the pressure of always having to be “on”.

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So, this was my share for today… Maybe I should just shift to Truthy Thursday because I don’t remember the last time I actually posted a Truthy on Tuesday lol. I hope you’re able to check out these articles when you have a free moment and I thank you for being apart of this beautiful community ❤

-Danni

Mitchell Maternity | Washington, DC Maternity Photographer

Next up for today? The beautiful Mitchell Family!

Some of my absolute faves :) It has been a true honor to document their love and growing family for the past 4 years! This time, it was a family maternity session with their energetic soon-to-be big brother, Cam!

Just a few days after their session, Yasmin and Calvin welcomed their beautiful baby girl!

Check out their fun family maternity session :)

Are you expecting a new little one soon? If you’re interested in a maternity session and would like to have the DFinney Experience yourself, email me and schedule yours today! Currently booking: May and June 2016.

Murray Maternity | Atlanta, GA Maternity Photographer

Happy Monday loves!

I have something special in the works for the month of May so I wanted to ramp up to that and revitalize my blog with some fun session recaps in preparation for that!

Since it’s Monday, I think we should do Maternity Monday! It’s been a while :)

First up? A wonderful session I had with my photog sis Kimberly and her husband! It is always a pleasure to work with fellow creatives and we had a great time together! 

How adorable is this card Kim’s husband, Yohance created for their new year’s pregnancy announcement!

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Despite the rainy day, we managed to capture some gorgeous images of this wonderful time in their lives (AND find a wall that matched them perfectly! lol) Just two weeks following our session, Kimberly & Yohance welcomed their beautiful baby girl!

Check out some of my faves from their fun mini maternity session 

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Are you expecting a new little one soon? If you’re interested in a maternity session and would like to have the DFinney Experience yourself, email me and schedule yours today! Currently booking: May and June 2016.

Easterling Family | Washington, DC Family Photographer

Trying to jump back on the blogging bandwagon as I’ve been on an unintentional hiatus these past few months :)

We are now in the beautiful Spring season so I wanted to share my fun spring family session with The beautiful Easterling Family!

I had such a great time with this energetic bunch! I love when I’m able to capture kids just being their awesome little selves :)

Check out their fun spring mini session!

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If you’re interested in a family session and would like to have the DFinney Experience yourself, email me and schedule yours today! Currently booking: May and June 2016.

Truthy... Thursday? | The Truth About My Absence

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This post originally appeared here.

I wanted to wait. 

I was (and still kinda am) unsure of the “right words”… But, I told myself eventually they would come and… they seem to be flowing, so I won’t let my fear be a hindrance any further.

I mentioned earlier this year that I was dealing with health issues and as a result, scaled back on work and travel. But I purposely didn’t go into detail… And honestly, the more time passed, it wasn’t so much that I felt like I “owed” anyone an explanation, but it was that I felt that my silence was further feeding into the stigma surrounding mental health and I didn’t like that.

For some reason in our society, physical illness is treated a lot more sympathetically than mental illness. I guess because it’s often accompanied by symptoms you can see. Mental illness on the other hand is often manifest in ways that can be (and often are) misinterpreted. Sometimes as laziness, simply not trying hard enough, just being pessimistic… personality “flaws” if you will. While the cause of such symptoms is actually rooted in abnormal brain function.

Just as physical illness can be hereditary, caused by injury, or simply develop over time, the same is true for mental illness. I feel like I have a combination of all three honestly lol. I may have been genetically predisposed already, but who knows. I’m dealing with it now and that’s all that matters. 

Living with depression and being on the bipolar spectrum is interesting… to say the least. It is really difficult dealing with mental illness in a society that constantly tells you to “just try harder”. It is really difficult dealing with mental illness and running your own business. It is really difficult being depressed and literally being unable to do the things that will make you feel better.

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I don’t know what writing this means… I’m not writing this just to say how hard it is. And I’m certainly not writing to say that I’m all better. 

A lot of posts I see where someone’s struggle with depression is shared, it’s from an “I overcame this” perspective. And while that is certainly encouraging, I know a lot of people are still in the midst of their struggle. It’s a lot more complicated than just feeling bad for a little and then being all better.

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I guess I wrote this as more of a “hey this is a little of what’s been (and is) going on”. 

Honestly, I felt compelled to write because I often hear how inspiring I am to fellow photographers and business owners wondering how I “keep it all together”… well the truth is that I don’t! Lol I literally do not have it all together. Maybe it appears that way, but it certainly was not an intentionally crafted facade. I thoroughly appreciate transparency so if this helps in any way, I hope it helps you see past what appears to “be all together”. 

I am human, just like you. A human trying to manage and navigate this space as best I can.

I also want to say that if you too are dealing with mental illness (or suspect that you may be), please don’t feel bad about getting help. It’s important to find out what you’re dealing with so that you can learn how best to cope with it. Whether it’s therapy, eating better and exercise, supplements, medication, meditation, or a combination of all of the above, it is so important. Your mental health… your brain’s health is the root of you. Your decision making, your mood processing, your emotional balance… If that’s off, you’re off and there should be no shame in getting the assistance required to help you be your best you.

Even if you may not suffer personally, please remember that everybody is dealing with something. So try to be a little kinder, supportive, and understanding when you can.

Til next time,

-Danni ♥